Have you ever been in a situation where some intense crap is going down yet you choose not to communicate?

By Allana Pratt

Have you ever been in a situation where some intense crap is going down yet you choose not to tell the kids?

Or you hear about something at work and you just don't want to bring negative energy into your relationship so you don't share it?

Or even something so fabulous is unfolding yet to keep it to yourself, to protect its pristine unfolding until it reaches critical mass?

How the hell do YOU make that decision... to tell or not to tell?

And how the hell do you keep it inside without it eating you up?

And when you do decide to share, should you choose to, how do you communicate why you kept it hidden all that time, to your loved ones?

This is where I am.

In the past, my newsletter has been 100% transparent, you know EVERYTHING as it's happening, like a consciousness reality show where you learn as I learn, grow as I grow, feel as I feel, and at times, get triggered as I get triggered.

As a leader in personal growth, it is a fine line between what to share to empower you, and what to withhold so as not to bombard you with more than you're already challenged with, while simultaneously being transparent, accessible and real.

For example, with all that's going down in my life, there's a part of me that wanted to invite you all over to my living room, pour you tea or a glass of wine and lay it on the table till 3 in the morning.

Yet today I'm making another choice. I am doing what I tell you to do...

Sit in the fire, expand and feel.

It's wild what I'm seeing.

A part of me wants to share... being totally honest... with some blame and righteousness, making me look good, seeking your approval and agreement... kind of a mob mentality.

Not choosing that.

And so I as I sit in the fire, feel the burning and expand to hold the whole experience... this process ignites in me the Gift of this circumstance... it awakens a Strength, an Awareness and a Discernment for Right Action, not REaction.

It's awakening in me the next level of my intuition, knowing and perceiving for my highest good.

In another example, there's a part of me that wants to share GOOD news too, yet its mixed with private information.... and so this lesson expands me as well... it's not black or white, all or nothing, I can trust myself to share what feels expansive and light, and let what feels private, pristine, precious and too pure for public consumption at this point... I can hold that in my discerning heart.

In fact don't you do this when first dating, navigate these waters of what to tell and what not to tell?

Have you felt the feeling of holding it all in, and then they say you're not interesting or open...

Or you tell them everything and they say you're too dramatic or complicated...

Or... you do as I'm doing and encouraging you to do... sit in the fire... feel into how each present moment choice will expand or contract the possibility of the relationship... and follow the lighter energy... share what feels light...

So my big lesson is to see that in my commitment to authenticity, transparency and openness, in my practice to be positive, cooperative and supportive...I'd shut off my awareness that some people don't choose the level of integrity I do...

...and because I was unwilling to be aware of that, I set myself up for betrayal. Kind of a kumbaya polyanna denial.

I am so thrilled with this insight for I'm unwilling to be a victim and just couldn't see how I was setting myself up! All I had to do was be willing to face my discomfort, feel it, and all my awareness returned.

Sitting in this has awakened a competency, a judgment free capacity to see things as they are, not as I wish they would be...

...and now I can choose what would further All, a calm discernment that I've never known.

So the good news that I'm gloriously grateful to share is that I'm completely in love. Marigold at the Conscious Life Expo over the weekend said I look 10 years younger.

Listen to the interview with Jill of Spiritual Singles in the Intimate Conversations Series to hear how I found him...

The main take away is that I shifted from 'wanting' him to being the space to HAVING him. "I'm having him" I said to myself, as I wrote my profile.

And now I'm allowing myself to have pleasure, support and joy beyond my old walls of comfort or control... all the while simultaneously having awareness of challenging things (can you feel the expansion in both directions?) and I'm willing to sit in the fire and feel it and act from my highest self.

I'm grateful to be able to share this journey with you.

Deliciously yours,

Allana

p.s. Ask this question every day until next week's newsletter and let me know what unfolds.... "What would it take for me to have total awareness, choice and possibility for a glorious life of ease and deliciousness?"

Join us in the upcoming live membership calls will you?

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Start focusing on your wounds so that you can be BOTH a Healthy Huge Hearted man....

By Allana Pratt

6 (now 7?) Knights Rock It...

Before I give you the boiled down crystallized solutions, nuggets and gems of wisdom that the 6 men on the YES Membership call last night have experienced and integrated into their lives... I want to share this...

  Hello Allana,

 I don't know if you will get this, I hope they forward it to you. I just listened to one of David D Angelo's CDs with you as a guest. My friend said I have to listen to you. We both have CDs from David. Allana holly shit you are spot on with my life and a couple of my ex-girlfriends. I have received so many emails from you and didn't pay much attention to them. I am sorry, definitely my loss. The way you talk about depth through the heart to ultimately get what most humans desire. I am so deep, my confidence really exceeds itself at times. I am a lover, romantic,protector, Cancer, so on and on.

I know who I am and what I want. The problem is I fall deeply in love and when the compatibility bucks heads that's where I am now. My ex of 2 1/2 months is really hard to get over. I really wanted to marry her. She has OCD. That's where the problem is: when I get romantic she starts an argument to keep me from getting close...I want somebody to love and protect and grow with. I WILL FIND HER.

Thank you.

p.s. I am not a wuss boy. I do have balance. lol

I wish I knew your name Nobel Knight!

Thank you for your kind words and glad you are enjoying my support now. You sound like a huge hearted man, like so many of the amazing men I attract that just got the solutions they need from other dating experts.

Men with huge hearts DON'T get over their ex's as easily as other men. Men with huge hearts DON'T bounce back as quickly as other men. Men with huge hearts DON'T make good choices in women if their hearts are wounded. YET men with huge HEALED hearts are the BEST lovers, BEST partners and BEST catches out there, for you have the capacity to deeply, profoundly [fuck us like only a Nobel Knight can.]

(what a shame to waste THAT capacity just because no one has shown you how to hear your heart and all this time you've been thinking you are weak! WRONG!)

Here is a list of what the men on the YES! call have learned from me and inspired in one another, having been part of a community that YOU can put into practice today.

And of course, if you haven't joined yet, do so!

Not only do you get all the archived live calls, past interviews, videos, audios, but you also get fresh material each month and two live calls a month with me! To top this amazing offer off you will also get a 30 minute live (complementary) session with yours truly.

David said in 30 minutes I figured out what his therapist of 4 years hadn't. Just that alone can change your life.

So back to the tips to integrate, you big hearted (albeit wounded hearted) Knight:

1. Why have you chosen a woman who won't let you in? Wounded hearts do this, your wound meeting her wound. Men on the call last night were speaking of dating women who were flakes, didn't keep their word, lies, wouldn't call back or show up, and even played games.

I told them everything outside is a mirror of the inside. What value is there in chasing a woman who doesn't honor you? Yet blaming her just keeps THEM in judgment. Instead, take full responsibility and ask yourself what part of ME is lying to me? Flaking on me or my purpose? Not keeping my word to myself, my commitments, my dreams? What part of ME is not showing up? My boundaries? My ethics? My self worth? My self forgiveness? What part of me is playing games and not stepping fully into my truth?

So love, my coaching to you is join the YES Membership and let me guide you as well. Instead of focusing on her, getting over her, wanting to have married her, fix her, change her, save her it's time to take all that energy and start healing YOU. Start focusing on your wounds so that you can be BOTH a Healthy Huge Hearted man AND one who has integrated your boundaries, values, clear purpose, discernment with what you deserve.

2. Men on the call through our work together have now:

• Completed a masters degree.
  
• Are not intimidated by women anymore.
• Quit a job they hated and found a job they like.
• Committed to moving out of their parent's house January 1.
• Fired business partners that weren't in line with their values.
• Easily approach women and took all power back.
• Know there is nothing they can't do:total faith and determination.
• Feel relaxed on the inside and trust their gut instincts.
• Trust themselves AND the Universe that it's on their side.
• Accept challenges and show up for the journey. They are not hindered by attachment to the outcome.

I am friggen' turned on, inspired and adoring of these incredible men with he deep, powerful work they've done and how they challenge and believe in one another. A brotherhood.

Nameless knight, consider yourself HOME in my love, my arms, my wisdom, my mastery and my 100% belief in you and commitment to your freedom, power and confidence so that you share that big heart of yours with a quality and beautiful woman.

Know you are loved,

Allana