Have you ever been in a situation where some intense crap is going down yet you choose not to communicate?

By Allana Pratt

Have you ever been in a situation where some intense crap is going down yet you choose not to tell the kids?

Or you hear about something at work and you just don't want to bring negative energy into your relationship so you don't share it?

Or even something so fabulous is unfolding yet to keep it to yourself, to protect its pristine unfolding until it reaches critical mass?

How the hell do YOU make that decision... to tell or not to tell?

And how the hell do you keep it inside without it eating you up?

And when you do decide to share, should you choose to, how do you communicate why you kept it hidden all that time, to your loved ones?

This is where I am.

In the past, my newsletter has been 100% transparent, you know EVERYTHING as it's happening, like a consciousness reality show where you learn as I learn, grow as I grow, feel as I feel, and at times, get triggered as I get triggered.

As a leader in personal growth, it is a fine line between what to share to empower you, and what to withhold so as not to bombard you with more than you're already challenged with, while simultaneously being transparent, accessible and real.

For example, with all that's going down in my life, there's a part of me that wanted to invite you all over to my living room, pour you tea or a glass of wine and lay it on the table till 3 in the morning.

Yet today I'm making another choice. I am doing what I tell you to do...

Sit in the fire, expand and feel.

It's wild what I'm seeing.

A part of me wants to share... being totally honest... with some blame and righteousness, making me look good, seeking your approval and agreement... kind of a mob mentality.

Not choosing that.

And so I as I sit in the fire, feel the burning and expand to hold the whole experience... this process ignites in me the Gift of this circumstance... it awakens a Strength, an Awareness and a Discernment for Right Action, not REaction.

It's awakening in me the next level of my intuition, knowing and perceiving for my highest good.

In another example, there's a part of me that wants to share GOOD news too, yet its mixed with private information.... and so this lesson expands me as well... it's not black or white, all or nothing, I can trust myself to share what feels expansive and light, and let what feels private, pristine, precious and too pure for public consumption at this point... I can hold that in my discerning heart.

In fact don't you do this when first dating, navigate these waters of what to tell and what not to tell?

Have you felt the feeling of holding it all in, and then they say you're not interesting or open...

Or you tell them everything and they say you're too dramatic or complicated...

Or... you do as I'm doing and encouraging you to do... sit in the fire... feel into how each present moment choice will expand or contract the possibility of the relationship... and follow the lighter energy... share what feels light...

So my big lesson is to see that in my commitment to authenticity, transparency and openness, in my practice to be positive, cooperative and supportive...I'd shut off my awareness that some people don't choose the level of integrity I do...

...and because I was unwilling to be aware of that, I set myself up for betrayal. Kind of a kumbaya polyanna denial.

I am so thrilled with this insight for I'm unwilling to be a victim and just couldn't see how I was setting myself up! All I had to do was be willing to face my discomfort, feel it, and all my awareness returned.

Sitting in this has awakened a competency, a judgment free capacity to see things as they are, not as I wish they would be...

...and now I can choose what would further All, a calm discernment that I've never known.

So the good news that I'm gloriously grateful to share is that I'm completely in love. Marigold at the Conscious Life Expo over the weekend said I look 10 years younger.

Listen to the interview with Jill of Spiritual Singles in the Intimate Conversations Series to hear how I found him...

The main take away is that I shifted from 'wanting' him to being the space to HAVING him. "I'm having him" I said to myself, as I wrote my profile.

And now I'm allowing myself to have pleasure, support and joy beyond my old walls of comfort or control... all the while simultaneously having awareness of challenging things (can you feel the expansion in both directions?) and I'm willing to sit in the fire and feel it and act from my highest self.

I'm grateful to be able to share this journey with you.

Deliciously yours,

Allana

p.s. Ask this question every day until next week's newsletter and let me know what unfolds.... "What would it take for me to have total awareness, choice and possibility for a glorious life of ease and deliciousness?"

Join us in the upcoming live membership calls will you?

These aren't teleseminars they are teleconferences- where we talk together!

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For Women: Redifining Sexuality...

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For Men: Get Her to Say Yes...

Foundations for creating attraction and deep connection with women...

By Bryan

It used to DRIVE ME CRAZY that I wasn't able to walk up to women I didn't know and start a conversation.

And so, like anything else I wanted to improve at, I PRACTICED approaching women.

Sometimes, I would see a girl and tell myself, "Even if I'm not physically attracted to this girl, I should at least approach her, just for the practice."

This can be useful, but there's a TRAP.

See, if you practice approaching women, they can EASILY become objectified - an "opportunity to practice my approaching skills"... and women are SUPER-SENSITIVE.

They're gonna FEEL that they're simply a "means to an end" for you, and this is going to impact your level of connection and attraction - Negatively. And if you are basically using someone for practice, it won't feel as good to you either.

I congratulate you for being inspired to overcome your "approach anxiety," and gain facility with meeting women you've never met... but ask yourself:

"Can I access my Genuine Curiosity about this person, independent of 'improving my skills'?"

The answer to that question may be "no," and that's fine.

However, if you can't bring yourself to be truly interested and curious about someone else - her hopes, dreams and desires - then it's gonna prevent you from
having DEEP, REWARDING CONNECTIONS (not to mention that women feel slightly "used" when you interact with them).

Here's a tip to counteract this tendency:

Consider that at one time, the woman you're approaching was a little girl.

Ask yourself,

"What was she like as a child?

Meek and quiet, or a troublemaker?

A girly-girl, or a tomboy? etc..."

This will help you get out of the "approach practice" mindset and help you truly relate to her as another human being...

From this place, your first interactions will be more rewarding for BOTH of you.

Try it out!

And, if you want more killer tips about creating attraction and connection with women that will have you BOTH feeling exhilarated, turned on and excited - whether it's a cold approach, or you've known her for decades - then you'll want to check out our Foundations of Inner Game Program.

We teach you the "Big 3" Foundations for creating attraction and deep connection with women.

Check it out now, here:

Bryan and the AMP Team

Keys to Orgasmic Mastery- Master your sexual energy!

By Bryan

Sexuality can be one of the most rewarding, dynamic, and Edgy aspects of being a human being on this planet, yet our culture gives it such a thin treatment, with very little substance and lots of titillation and hype.

Authentically exploring your sexuality as a man can be supremely rewarding- that's definitely what I've discovered for myself!

Sexual energy master Jim Benson is leading a course called Sexual Energy Mastery- a frank, open conversation about sex and how to open up the channels in your body to feel more pleasure, have more control, and even experience multiple or full-body orgasms...!

Reserve your spot here:

Jim's going to cover:

• Five practical tools for gaining more control during sex...
• How to feel more confident about your sexuality, both inside and outside the bedroom
• The 3 types of masculine bedroom styles- Jim thought this might be a little cheesy, ("Bruno Bliss"?) but I feel clear that these sexual archetypes will help you get clear on the next level for you.

It's designed to work with two kinds of guys:

1) If you struggle with the physical and mental challenges of early ejaculation: Jim will help you normalize your situation and teach you the foundational principles of gaining ejaculatory control.

2) If you already have control over your ejaculation, Jim will share with you the tools he personally used to move from "guy with control" to "multiorgasmic monster".

Reserve your spot here:

Jim's the real deal- his wisdom has benefited me personally- and therefore my girlfriend as well :) - and he's trained hundreds of men in having more freedom and self-expression in the bedroom, including several who have learned to access the "holy grail" of being multiorgasmic and having full-body orgasms.

For us men, so often the way our bodies work simply goes unexplored and undiscussed... and this training call with Jim will bring a new level of awareness around your relationship to sex and your body.

If this is an area of your life you'd like more freedom and awareness, register here:

How could it get any better?

By Allna Pratt

Dear incredible Readers,

I'm coming undone. First, I had a 30-minute call today with my youngest man ever. A 17-year old man from Germany, on Skype! Total cutie. Wow, how amazing is that?

He's in the YES! Membership (yes, that's how you get a complementary call with me guys *wink*) and after our call about his insecurities spinning in his head paralyzed with procrastination, here is where we got:

"Ever since I was little I liked to dance and my mum used to tell me I got 'the rhythm in my blood' (It's a German phrase; you know what I mean?). I always tinkered with the idea of joining a Hip- Hop dance group - but never did it. Maybe I was afraid I would fail, wouldn't be good at it. I told myself I just can't decide what I want to do. Maybe playing guitar would be the better choice? So I did nothing. But boy, how do you know what you want if you never try it?! So, I just tracked down all the Hip-Hop dance schools and groups in my area. Tomorrow I'm gonna check them out and show up to the next practice.It's about time to do what I want and SHAKE IT! :D Wish me luck, Greetings from Germany, Lukas"

Isn't that the bomb? Rock your bootie Lukas!! Can't wait to hear.

Next, I'm coming undone because I'm so excited to be invited to to be on the support/ facilitation team for Aletheia in LA this month. However I can serve will be divine. Did you know it's the first time Decker has come to Los Angeles EVER to facilitate an event?

It's called Aletheia: A Deep Dive into Authentic Relationships. (January 27-29 Los Angeles)

~*Join me for Aletheia*~

When I talked with Bryan the first time, it was for almost 2 hours (amazing connection). When I interviewed him in San Fran I could see FOREVER in his eyes. They say for this event you will experience:

• A loved one's eyes light up with gratitude for finally feeling seen for the unique gift that they are...
• Crying tears of relief from realizing we can let go of a self-image we've been carrying for years....
• Raw, edgy excitement at feeling finally free to say what's REALLY true for us, without holding back from fear of what others might think.
• Profound spiritual realization, often only found in a monastery or intense meditative practice...

This is the deliciousness I live for. This is what I experience with you in private sessions. On the membership call this month, men were moved to tears, for my voice just makes them feel safe.

~*Become a Member*~

This is the reason why my son called to say he wanted to stay with me because his dad, bless him for all he does do, couldn't support him emotionally when his cat died. I create the safe space to be real, to be welcomed, enveloped, accepted and unconditionally loved even in his pain.

So glorious men, join me at the Aletheia Event in LA!

~*Join me for Aletheia*~

How could it get even better? Just know that showing up as the authentic, glorious YOU is what turns me on, what opens me deeper, what makes me love being a woman, and is the key to getting Her to say YES!

Humongous deliciousness for you!

Blessings,

Allana