The risks of changing your life...

By Chris Cade

One of the deep subconscious blocks we have to transforming our lives is the risk of the unknown. Specifically, the unknown risk that it'll turn our lives upside-down.

That's because our personal transformation affects all aspects of our lives, and especially intimate relationships. For example, a few years ago the path of personal transformation empowered me to make the incredibly difficult decision to file for divorce.

The reason it affects our personal relationships is this...

Every relationship has a balance point. It's the state of relationship in which both people subconsciously agree "this is how things should be and are going to be."

When one person makes permanent and lasting changes, it disrupts the balance point because there's only three possible outcomes:

(1) The other person accepts the changes as they are.
This can be either an actual acceptance, or just a desire to not rock the boat. If it's an actual acceptance, the relationship can reach the balance point again rather quickly. If it's a desire to not rock the boat, then it'll eventually lead to possibility number two:

(2) The relationship ends.
This happens because the changes are so significant that both people can no longer agree on the balance point. Sometimes it's a literal end, while other times it just means a change of relationship (such as partners becoming friends). It happens because one person made notable changes while the other person was unable or unwilling to.

(3) The other person changes as well.
In an empowered relationship, this means that both people elevate their consciousness, change for the better, and ultimately find a new, more fulfilling balance point.

Circling back, remember this...

No matter which of those outcomes happens, when we change our lives we are putting ourselves AND others at risk.

At the most basic level, we risk our emotions and rejection. At a more serious level, we risk our health, home and livelihood -- particularly if the changes in relationship involve the workplace (such as an employee taking more accountability, responsibility, or pushing for serious organizational changes).

In 2009 I risked it all. I filed for divorce, asked my employer to lay me off (which they did), and foreclosed on my home. In short, I faced both the emotional and practical consequences of risking everything I had and knew myself to be.

I pray that kind of severe upheaval doesn't happen to others when they make serious changes in their lives. Yet it seems to be par for the course.

With that in mind, when we're reluctant to make changes in our lives we have to ask ourselves a very important yet rarely asked question:

How much are you willing to risk to transform your life? 

Or phrased differently...
 
How much will you risk to have all the joy you've ever wanted?

How much will you risk for your freedom?

For your happiness? 

For your health?
 
For that extraordinary romantic relationship your heart deeply yearns for?

If you aren't willing to face the possibility of hurting yourself AND others, you'll experience an inner reluctance. At least that's what we call the nice, friendly "small" version of this emotion.

When reluctance gets too severe, we call it by a different name:

"Fear."

I had to go through a Dark Night of my Soul to understand that the risks of reluctance are VERY severe. I'd never wish it upon anybody else.

I used to call myself a "Reluctant Hero." If you listen to old interviews with me, that's how I'm introduced. That's what my old bio said.

But I can't live that way anymore. I can't be that person...

Because being reluctant is too risky. Far more risky than overcoming the reluctance and embracing all that God wants me to have in this life.

My wish for you is that you look candidly at your reluctance. Ask yourself whether the risk of reluctance is worth the reward of staying comfortable, safe, and not living up to your greatest potential.

Or if you'd rather have it the other way around...

It's actually less risky in the long run. :)

Your Partner In Transformation,

Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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And most of them know exactly why.

It’s not because the course they bought is no good or the seminar to they attended was lousy.
It’s not because the economy is bad and the world is a mess.
It’s not because their family isn’t supportive or their spouse lives in another world.

Most people would probably admit that the #1 reason they don’t achieve their most important goals is because they don’t “stick with it.” Once the novelty wears off so does their determination. Or they have so many goals – more than they can possibly achieve – that they’ve created a situation where they can never make any significant and lasting progress on any of them.

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Pasta For Dinner, Sex Before Bed & Facebook Throughout the Day...

By Chris Cade

When we start something new the brain releases a hormone called dopamine. That's the feel good hormone released when you're eating chocolate or having sex. It's a survival hormone. It allowed our primitive ancestors to know what would help keep them alive (e.g. eating food) and the species going (having sex).

So why does starting something new release this feel-good hormone?

Because, as I explains in My free "Getting Things Changed" mini-course, prehistoric survival was totally dependent on being alert to new things. Namely, prey, predators and berries. Caveman didn't know how to raise livestock, farm or build cities. They were at the mercy of nature - both its bounty and its threats.

Have you ever seen the TV show Survivorman?

After being stranded out in the wild, Les Stroud was usually happy if he hadn't been attacked by a puma; found clean water; and had eaten at least one small snake and a handful of dandelions - over the course of seven days.

Imagine living like that your entire life?

Our ancestors were always at the whim of performing short-lived experiences like escaping a tiger, finding twelve wild berries or spearing a boar.

In our more sophisticated society, a short attention span is not so compatible with the type of material, psychological and spiritual progress that people like you and I are seeking. The opposite has become true. If you can't focus and stick to something, you make little progress. Sure you won't starve to death. Instead you find yourself facing a fate worse than death by wild alligator -- you find yourself living a mediocre life.

Unfortunately our ancestors' short attention span and obsessions with new threats and opportunities seems to be coded into our DNA. It is but one of the reasons we have so much trouble sticking to a personal development program for more than 12 minutes (forget about 12 months). This is why we get bored after learning a few basic greetings in a new language. This is why we give up after spending a week dieting and exercising to lose a pound of weight.

Nonetheless, all of us have experiences where a burning desire, aroused will power or life-and-death necessity has made us commit to certain long-term goals... and achieve them. And we know that the satisfaction of finishing a self improvement course, changing a habit or learning an instrument produces a deep sense of joy and wellbeing (that the fleeting dopamine rush of food and sex can not compete with). Nothing against food and sex, mind you - but life is so much more.

I don't believe our ancestors were put on this planet to just survive... I believe we were given the gift of evolution so that we could THRIVE.
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Optimize Your Life

By Chris Cade

Lately I've been really interested in looking at the meaning of words in new ways. Words are the primary way we communicate (especially in digital mediums). And they are symbols for what lies in our minds, both consciously and subconsciously.

By redefining words consciously, you can actually begin to rewire your subconscious for your benefit. That's because as we live more consciously, our subconscious is also affected (whether we're trying or not).

Today, I'm going to look at "optimism." In most contexts, we think of optimism as assuming a positive outcome. The first definition in a dictionary supports this view:

"A tendency to expect the best possible outcome or dwell on the most hopeful aspects of a situation"

In other words, it's an expectation that the future will be ideal.

What's missing from this equation though is context. Who exactly decides what is "more ideal" or "best possible outcome" or "hopeful aspects"?

Is it your ego? How does that compare if somebody else's ego disagrees?

For example a tennis match. Both players are optimistic that they will win. Each player has practiced for many years and has a variety of excellent techniques to defeat their opponents.

Yet only one can win. Therefore, we have to ask:

Does optimism serve them both?

Sure they both can expect to win. Sure both can prepare to win. Since only one can win though, this view of optimism is limited.

I'm beginning to wonder about a different way of looking at optimism. Here's two other definitions of optimism:

"(a) The doctrine that this world is the best of all possible worlds.

-and-

"(b) The belief that the universe is improving and that good will ultimately triumph over evil."

Regardless of whether we look at it from the perspective of good versus evil, I particularly resonate with these two definitions.

What if instead of viewing the world as inherently good or evil, we viewed it in terms of optimization?

What if instead of asking "Why do bad things happen to good people?" we asked, "How might this experience ~optimize~ for the greatest benefit of the world?"

This perspective makes a lot more sense when we consider the definitions of "optimize:"

"(a) To make as effective, perfect, or useful as possible."

"(b) to make the best of."

In this view, it's no longer about being hopeful or optimistic in the traditional sense. It's not about thinking positively about our own unique situation.

We're challenged to ask bigger questions. Questions that go beyond just what our egos want to say about how an "ideal" situation looks.

We can think about optimization in a larger sense. We can consider how our own personal experience might be contributing to a larger whole.

It's often said "the whole is greater than the sum of its parts." Thus, if we are all parts of a whole, it stands to reason that our personal "optimizations" are contributing to the whole...

And often in ways we can't know or comprehend.

When we step the ego aside for a little while, we have an opportunity to experience optimism in this new way. Experiences, however personal they are, however difficult they are, might just be a doorway through which the Universe is optimizing itself.

The interesting thing about optimization is that we can't know what it looks like. Some might say that an optimized car might go faster in a shorter time period. That is true. However, an optimized car also might use less resources, be lighter, recycle easier, be easier to drive, or just an awesome stereo.

All of those are ways in which optimization for a vehicle could happen. Yet if we only focus on making faster cars, we lose out on the possibility that there's many ways to optimize a car.

Or maybe, while trying to optimize a car a totally different technology is discovered... perhaps giving rise to a new supercomputer or flying saucer technology.

Take for example this story...

Alexander Fleming was a scientific researcher in the early 1900's who had been on vacation. After returning, then working, he set aside a stack of bacterial cultures.

When he returned to the laboratory, he discovered that one of those cultures had been contaminated with a fungus. He also noticed that all the bacteria around that fungus had been destroyed.

This was how one of the greatest disease-preventing agents in history was accidentally discovered. It was named "penicillin."

Sure there's lots of accidental discoveries in the world. It happens all the time. Perhaps that's because the Universe seems to have an optimizing nature about it.

We don't always understand what is being optimized. We don't always know why. But it seems that there's something about experiences that gives us the opportunity to optimize personally and as a collective.

Similarly, there's also different ways to optimize your life. You can't know exactly what "more confidence" will look like in your life. And yet, as you develop your confidence more fully, your life optimizes as a byproduct.

Maybe you engage more socially. Maybe you ask for a raise. Maybe you start a new business. Maybe you challenge your partner to live more fully and lovingly. Or maybe it will lead you to take a risk that leads to a new discovery about yourself.

Who knows?

All we know is that when we view the world through the lens of "optimization," it creates a land of mysterious and unknown possibilities.

Think about it. Give it a try. See what you discover.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade

Chris Cade's complimentary transformational mini-course- "Getting Things Changed." 
 
This 7 day email-based course helps you overcome all the mental obstacles to doing what needs to be done to achieve your big goals in life.

You can get all seven lessons for free:
 
Each day, for seven days, you get something new. A little dopamine shot to help you along as Chris unravels many of the mysterious subconscious blocks stopping you from achieving your most important goals in life.

A Sneaky Self-Sabotaging Trick of Your Subconscious Mind...

Do you know what the number one reason is that most people don't meet their personal goals?
Whether someone wants to learn a new language, kick a bad habit, succeed at a business, find their soul mate or stick to a meditation routine -- 80% of people will admit that they just haven't made as much progress as they had expected they would...

And most of them know exactly why.

It's not because the course they bought is no good or the seminar to they attended was lousy.

It's not because the economy is bad and the world is a mess.

It's not because their family isn't supportive or their spouse lives in another world.

Most people would probably admit that the #1 reason they don't achieve their most important goals is because they don't "stick with it."
Once the novelty wears off so does their determination. Or they have so many goals - more than they can possibly achieve - that they've created a situation where they can never make any significant and lasting progress on any of them.

No book, teacher, course, program or levitating master can help you if you're not able to focus and put forth consistent, constructive action.

To help liberate you from lack of follow-through, personal transformation expert Chris Cade has created a complimentary 7-day mini-course called "Getting Things Changed." It explains the inner and outer obstacles conspiring against your efforts at changing your life for the better. 

It's 100% free. You'll receive one lesson per day, and these seven lessons could change the course of your entire life.
You can trust Chris 100% to deliver real, actionable content that you'll be grateful for.

Go on. Give "Getting Things Changed" a try if you want to overcome those sneaky self-sabotaging tricks of the your subconscious mind.
Stop your own mind from stopping you from doing what you already know you need to do to destroy your troubles.